Dad3353 Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Marc S Posted August 10, 2017 Share Posted August 10, 2017 I've been there so many times Juliet - I feel your pain But - as others have pointed out, another door will open - just stay positive All those hours put in, learning a song you may not play again aren't wasted, honestly Focussing on a song you may otherwise never have learned can only help your listening and playing Until recently I was playing DB in a Bluegrass / Country / Acoustic Rootsy band, and we developed a great set - lots of stuff you never hear covered~ Then the singer / guitar /uke /mando player left and we all thought "how do you replace that?" He was great, and so versatile, Sad thing is, he formed the band, and has given up playing live The rest of us kept going, then the fiddle player leaves, and I must say, I was gutted But along came a fab singer / guitarist /Uke / Mandolin player, who is also a classically trained pianist! The music has changed direction a bit - but hey, we're learning more fab songs and having fun Her name is Juliet BTW lol Best of luck searching for a new band - but keep your chin up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrunoBass Posted August 10, 2017 Share Posted August 10, 2017 [quote name='julietgreen' timestamp='1498410489' post='3324378'] Hi all, again. Thanks for the feedback - and the positive comments! Yeah - one of the reasons we went down well is because people liked hearing the good old fashioned rock. I like the idea of having 'low demand' projects on the go - I will need something to keep it going, otherwise, with normal job workload, it would be easy to let it drop. You're all right that other things will come along. Thanks for posting your vid, Dad3353 - you reminded me that we had this! https://youtu.be/JcUphKIbLm8 How do I embed video on here? [/quote] Sounds good to me! I recognise the band, I think. Pretty sure I've seen you play in Leamington, but a while ago? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yank Posted August 11, 2017 Share Posted August 11, 2017 Keep playing/ learning. Go hear other musicians for inspiration. Music is a lifelong journey. Stay commited. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaytonaRik Posted August 11, 2017 Share Posted August 11, 2017 I've never had a band split for family reasons but I have been in bands where relocation, change of job etc have all contributed to it's demise. Take heart from everyone else's posts - you will find a new band in due course that you enjoy playing in, and take the experiences that you've learned so far (both positive and negative) and put them to good effect in your new project. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikel Posted August 11, 2017 Share Posted August 11, 2017 (edited) Its a pain in the neck but we have all been there, and felt the same sense of waste. From what you say, If you have a good vocalist you have one of the most difficult elements of a band already in place. Would she not be prepared to help you look for other musicians, or a band that is looking for a vocalist and a bass player? Drummers and guitarists seem ten a penny on sites like Join My Band. One thing I cant understand is why people think life stops because they have a baby? Surely one night a week, for a couple of hours, is not asking the earth? We managed to keep normal life going having our two kids. We give a lot up for children, we dont have to give up everything. Edited August 11, 2017 by mikel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmccombe7 Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 [quote name='mikel' timestamp='1502443066' post='3351437'] Its a pain in the neck but we have all been there, and felt the same sense of waste. From what you say, If you have a good vocalist you have one of the most difficult elements of a band already in place. Would she not be prepared to help you look for other musicians, or a band that is looking for a vocalist and a bass player? Drummers and guitarists seem ten a penny on sites like Join My Band. One thing I cant understand is why people think life stops because they have a baby? Surely one night a week, for a couple of hours, is not asking the earth? We managed to keep normal life going having our two kids. We give a lot up for children, we dont have to give up everything. [/quote] Not having any kids and being a bit of an outsider looking in i've found that its easier for guys to carry on their social life and women generally seem to spend more time with newborn kids. That may just be an old fashioned image i have in my head and it's probably more male chauevenism at its best but its an observation over many years with many married friends. I agree with the comment that parents give up a lot for their children as they should but as you point out not everything. Surely there has to be some kind of a balance. Maybe i'm just old and have and older view of how couples work these days. Hopefully you'll get another band soon though. Dave Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ricksterphil Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 Only happened once to me and that was hard to take, it felt a bit like a relationship break-up (which it was I suppose)...I think our main problem was we didn't do enough gigs, + the singer (female, great voice) was having a relationship with the lead guitarists step-son (our sound engineer), which is always likely to be trouble if they split (they did). Since then (about 2 years ago) I'm in a Bowie Tribute band which is really good and going places (venues are re-booking us) AND I'm in the band for a musical at the local school....so as many have said, it can and will turn round for you...and sooner than you think! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blue Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 [quote name='dmccombe7' timestamp='1504021363' post='3362166'] Not having any kids and being a bit of an outsider looking in i've found that its easier for guys to carry on their social life and women generally seem to spend more time with newborn kids. That may just be an old fashioned image i have in my head and it's probably more male chauevenism at its best but its an observation over many years with many married friends. I agree with the comment that parents give up a lot for their children as they should but as you point out not everything. Surely there has to be some kind of a balance. Maybe i'm just old and have and older view of how couples work these days. Hopefully you'll get another band soon though. Dave [/quote] I've made this comment before. If your a busy bar band playing 2-3 nights a week, if you have band members with young children I see booking and cancellation issues on the horizon. Blue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dad3353 Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 (edited) [quote name='blue' timestamp='1504044010' post='3362366']... If your a busy bar band playing 2-3 nights a week, if you have band members with young children I see booking and cancellation issues on the horizon... [/quote] Why more so than bartenders, nurses or any other profession with irregular or unsocial hours..? I spent a good few decades playing in such formations, and never missed a gig, nor came across any other band members, either. Most had growing families, as did I. When playing with [i]that [/i]regularity, it's more of a full-time job, I'd say, and pays the bills, so you don't skip gigs lightly. Edited August 29, 2017 by Dad3353 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blue Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 [quote name='Dad3353' timestamp='1504044386' post='3362368'] Why more so than bartenders, nurses or any other profession with irregular or unsocial hours..? I spent a good few decades playing in such formations, and never missed a gig, nor came across any other band members, either. Most had growing families, as did I. When playing with [i]that [/i]regularity, it's more of a full-time job, I'd say, and pays the bills, so you don't miss gigs lightly. [/quote] I would say if the band is a primary or significant portion of a famies income it can work. But the guy with a good paying traditional career with young children that can just take off on every Friday and Saturday night and leave the children with his wife is rare in my neck of the woods. Blue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dad3353 Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 [quote name='blue' timestamp='1504044771' post='3362374']... But the guy with a good paying traditional career with young children that can just take off on every Friday and Saturday night and leave the children with his wife is rare in my neck of the woods.... [/quote] Yes, I suppose if you mean dentist and stockbroker bands, you may be right. I've never come across such bands; I've not been in the right circles, perhaps. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyTravis Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 I've been struggling recently to get projects going. I went on joinmyband.com and got responses straight away. Still early days but we're out tomorrow at an open mic, see how they do with a crowd. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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