I’ve found that having a way too loud amp but then setting it to the volume of the unamplified drums works a treat. In an old punk covers band the two guitarists had 100watt valve amps with 412s, I had a 400watt amp with a 412. We were never too loud as our drummer played with a light touch, but the depth of the sound was really nice, a full but not over loud sound. We did have a few panicked looks when we turned up to venues the first time but they calmed down when we sound checked.