[quote name='flyfisher' timestamp='1354492912' post='1886732']
Bandmates eh? Who'd 'av 'em.
I work on the principle that people are who they are (generally) and nothing is really going to change them. You can have 'have words' in all sorts of ways but, generally, people are not going to fundamentally change. So it's usually a case of deciding if you can put up with them.
As has been mentioned, there are many successful bands in which the members don't like each other. i recall hearing a programme about the Police reunion gigs and how they all had separate hotels, cars and dressing rooms and hardly saw each other except on stage.
You can try to change someone, of course, but it'll probably not work and will likely exacerbate the problem by bringing the discontent out into the open, which sort of makes the "you go or I go" showdown an inevitability. But if you're ready for that eventuality then you have nothing to lose.
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without in any way disagreeing with [b]flyfisher[/b]:
Some people do change. Actually, I suspect a lot of people do. I did, and more than once. It wasn't painless, but it was worth while. I think that this sort of change needs someone close to the person who's (possibly) going to change, though.