Can be dificult dealing with female band members, no matter how much they are 'one of the lads' they think and react differently.
Try talking to the guitar player in front of the others, if you cant get his attention kick him in the bollox and just quit, lifes too short to be doing something your not enjoying, and once communication has broken down beyond a certain point, you aint gonna get the respect back. You'll just hurt yourself trying.