I bailed on my band a few years ago.
It was a very successful pro function / wedding outfit, and I’d been with them for 15 years. We did a
lot of prestige gigs/venues, but there were always issues within it’s members, ranging from conflicting
work schedules through to drink and drug problems ( not mine!). Anyway, I was approached by some
friends who were in a tribute band who asked me to dep for their bassist who was sadly having
major health issues. I stepped in and did quite a few gigs with them, until unfortunately their
bassist passed away. I was then asked to join full time, but my loyalties lay with the function band,
so I reluctantly declined. I helped them recruit a new player, and I thought that was the end of that.
Then around 15 months later I got a call from them again, as the new guy had decided it wasn’t for
him. To be honest, I’d regretted turning them down the first time so jumped at the opportunity.
My old band by now were falling apart, with fewer gigs and other significant problems, so I bailed - gave
them a month’s notice and that was it.
The new band were quite the opposite - all lovely people, professional and organised etc and it
immediately turned out to be the right decision. The old band finally spluttered to a halt, whilst I
had a great 15 years on the road with a fantastic band, all of them memorable. After that I had
to (reluctantly) retire from touring, and gave them a year’s notice! We found a great player to
replace me, and I still keep in touch with them.
Nowadays I still play, just more locally - mainly in an acoustic duo with my best mate, and some
dep gigs. Sometimes things do work out for the best. 😊