I've got a selection. Ownhammer, 3 Sigma and some others. For bass and for guitar.
If you were too loud then it sounds like you didn't rehearse with them at gig volume to tweak them? Each of them can be adjusted for volume without changing amp or patch volume.
The main problem I have with IRs is option paralysis. Thousands of files on the Ownhammer ones and auditioning them takes a long time and ears get tired quickly. So I tend to stick with a few favourites.
I don't think they are actually better than the stock cabs, but the stock cabs have more options and can take a bit longer to dial in. But it's pointless trying to dial them in at home. Got to be at gig volume and in the mix.