I play drums in a few bands. Drumming well, with the right feel, at low volume, was a big struggle for me for years. I think I've got there now. IME it's got nothing to do with the size of the drums. Actually I don't find hotrods any quieter, although I guess you do get less attack from the cymbals which will help. I've just gotten used to playing quietly, and I use huge sticks.