I'm not sure if you've seen a young rock band recently? But the drummer tends to smash the sh*t out of the cymbals while struggling to get any level out of the drums - this is acoustically
God knows why they do this. Anyway, in a small venue (200 people ish) the cymbals end up very loud
IMO, if you're going for the modern rock drum sound, you have to go very easy on any cymbals you're "riding" (open hats, ride, crashes), and absolutely smash the snare and kick, but yeh, no-one seems to go for this approach, especially if the music is quite fast or technical - ever seen a death metal drummer? I'm sure there are good ones, but most of the amateurs I've seen simply can't keep up with the tempo, and can't get a good sound out of the snare as they can't hit hard consistently at that speed.