FFS I think you're best to be rid of that stress. I've met you, you're a lovely guy, and a decent player.
Bands, when it's not a full time job, find ways to work around each others limitations - even if you were improvising over a chord chart and expert at it most music has expected numbers of bars, chopping and changing for no reason... is interesting choice.... chopping and changing and not being able or willing to communicate to your bandmates is just crazy.
And when I say chopping and changing I mean ****ing up.
Also I know blokes who get angry easy, and blow up and get exasperated with things, thats bad, but also the culture that breeds around them - you know what - life really really is too short .