It's the arrangements we've painstakingly worked out over a long time, the subtle interactions between bass and drums and bass and keys, the dynamic shifts and the unusual covers we've chosen.
I've nothing against depping, I'm regularly depped in my other bands and I dep in plenty of other bands.
But these people insist on paid rehearsal, spending hours going over songs, and yet the bass can be replaced by someone who isn't even a bassist and at a couple of days notice.
If you don't see that as them not recognising and respecting the work I've put in then we differ.
Of course as I have said, they are right and I am wrong, because the audience doesn't care either