[quote name='guildbass' timestamp='1326757774' post='1501719']
The thing is, to retain a mate, HE has to decide so YOU have to manipulate the situation until he is unable NOT to see the issues...
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This is a terrible idea. When you start playing political manipulation you'll not only loose a drummer but a friend as well. Manipulation is never a good idea and is usually only used by bullies. As a lot of posters have said just be upfront about it. When you work with people there will, from time to time, be those who do not pull their weight. Something has to be done about it. So basically, put up or shut up and accept the situation. The choice is yours.