I'd say much of your problem is here. Mids is the last thing kicks need. A difficult room plus people that don't know what they're doing. Good musicians/sound techs know how to create space in the mix. A kilowatt of bass amplification is more than plenty for any stage but can't win from incompetence.
You say most of your pedals were running hot, that would mud up the sound even more. Roll off some low bass to make room for the kick and go light on the distortion, a little crunch goes a long way.