I love gigging. For me, if there is no gig then there is no reason to be in a band. Certainly not the sort of bands I am in!
At the moment the load in and out from gigs is starting to p me off a bit because not everyone is pulling their weight, but I am sure that will pass.
Well, that is very different, I wouldn't want that at all. For a start, no money, not interested - we do some charity stuff now and again, no problem with that, but not charity for a pub!
Its not a question of needing the money, I really don't and don't look on it as a way of making money, but if I am drawing people into pubs (and who knows if we are, but that is the point), then I want to be paid. All my gigging money goes to pay for instruments and things I use when gigging, so it is a self sustaining hobby.
To the next point, sometimes it gets too much. I get very frustrated if I haven't gigged for a while, but on the other side of the coin I get very annoyed to not have a break. If you do it every weekend it starts being like a job, and I have a job. It has to be the right amount.
That probably is the killer there. What they want is not what you want. If you aren't enjoying it and you are not getting paid, there is no point staying there, give them notice, let them find someone else.
Sounds more like you would enjoy it if you a) got some money and b) got to choose low stress gigs less often.