[quote name='daz' post='1336701' date='Aug 11 2011, 05:00 PM']i have the same problem. I find it almost impossible to play just off the beat, and keep time.[/quote]
I pretend to headbutt the guitarist on the onbeat and then play on the off beat - works a treat. Interestingly (or not) if I start playing more notes the drummer speeds up often to the point where it's impossible to keep up - this only happens on the skanky numbers.
Not really the sort of answer you were looking for Chris I'm sure, my only other nugget of limited wisdom is to shout out the root on the onbeat (if you haven't got a handy guitarist to air butt that is)