Essentially, you need to be good enough to be worth the hassle. The drummer in my band doesn't drive, but is both less than 10 minutes away, and ridiculously good so I have no issue at all.
Similarly, I'm in a van so no chance of wrecking the interior.
You're expecting someone to add considerably to their evening.
Jam nights and rehearsals should be ok as amps would be there. Gigging is another matter entirely.