I play in bands that have a band leader. A guy who has his vision and wants to lead and run his own band.
Very few of them are dictatorial to the point that you can't make suggestions but somebody else does have a veto and will make the final decision. That's fine, if they can produce the goods, which is a good set, a conveyor belt of good gigs and an audience. Most of the guys I play with do all of that. I'm good at what I do, but I'm not a hustler, I need someone else to do that but they need guys like me to do what I do.
The bands I play with are not a bunch of mates having fun, but we are all playing good music with good people and we're gigging and earning. All important ingredients for me as a bass player.
Getting back on topic. . . . you could probably put together an ad for what I do that would be equally as prescriptive as the ones Bub5 is complaining about.