TimR

You can't separate them. If I haven't cut my fingernails, the root of the noise sounds awful. Even worse if I've put brand new strings on and am playing through a 4" transistor radio speaker. Especially if I'm playing on the bathroom. Whichever has the most influence is usually the one you have least control over. Cut your fingernails and that may make a noticeable change but you still have that 4" speaker problem and bathroom issue.

Music is all about feel. It's an essential part of being a good musician. Feeling the rhythm would be a good place to start.

That's just reminded me of an incident that happened to me. We'd all agreed a song and a version. There was a tricky phase in the middle that I knew was going to be tricky and spent far too long working on it, even to the point of writing out the dots. Came to the practice, hit the phrase, drummer and myself play it perfectly. Guitarist all over the place, and the song crashes. So we ask what he's playing and he shows us. "Play it again, I'm not sure you've got the timing right." "Oh, you can't count it, you've got to feel it." Exchange glances with drummer who has now folded his arms. So guitarist plays it again louder. Drummer and I watch intensly. So he pays it again even louder. Me: "OK. I can't get that from what you're playing. I'll go away and work on it" - in the vein hope he'll actually take that as a clue to go away and work on the phrase himself. "It's easy,it's just:" - plays phrase badly even louder.

@garethonly in that it makes compelling viewing and makes him look like a bully. I'd even go as far as to say the women are being used in order to boost ratings.

This interview demonstrates exactly how people, especially the press, have a desire or need to stereotype and generalise. Everytime he makes a statement she tries to strawman him and generalise something, he then has to point out he is describing specific behaviours by people in specific situations. This is akin to having a hammer, everything starts looking like a nail. Say something has female qualities and you're being sexist... And say something is masculine and you're excluding women from being able to do it. Which is plainly nonsense. Sometimes you need to look in your toolbox and decide whether you should be using a hammer to bang in screws.

Indeed. Many women in the bass and baritone sections? I'm sure we can all name some very famous tennors and sopranos?

It means quicker recognition of targets and threats and less human soldiers in the line of fire.

It could, but it's entirely down to context. The problem is you throw the baby out with the bathwater. Those are examples where those terms are used in a pejorative context. Look at any choir and tell me which are the male parts and which are the female parts.

Presumably your company pay you a wage. Are they responsible for the tunes you play at gigs?

Birds of prey live solo, and occasionally in pairs. Humans live in a structured society. Part of what gives that structure is we have stereotypes. If people try to conform to stereotypes (they can't, and some people are desperate to), or other people try to pigeonhole people according to stereotypes, then you have serious issues. Language and stereotypes are not the issue. Knee jerk solutions to perceived problems by well meaning people are not going to fix those problems in the way they think they will.

Except that he doesn't. And neither did I. As Lozz says. That was one point I made since we are taking about that aspect of masculinity in this thread. But you'll find that is exactly what his detractors want you to think.

I assume there was some kind of eye contact and/or other signalling of the changes. As unless you're mind readers, if no one knows where you are in the song it's never going to work. Assuming lyrics and more than one chord.

They do. And many don't. We are one species that doesn't. That has nothing to do with religion or Peterson. If an average human man went toe to toe with an average human girl. My money wouldn't be on the girl. And I'm pretty sure we had huge protest in London about this very fact, lead by women who seem to feel somewhat at risk from men.

Not really. I guess clearly there are a load of people who don't want to hear it either. I'm not really bothered. I watch people's behaviour I've not seen anything that contradicts what he says. Only people who don't like to believe men and women are different.

The ones where men are on a normal distribution bigger, stronger and more prone to violence than women normally are. Look in the animal world and you'll see the same behaviours. You can pretend we are not animals. But all you're doing is pretending.

You can try and change words but you'll never change innately programmed behaviours. Which is what JP keeps pointing out, but no one wants to hear. All you're doing is slapping a coat of paint on what has structurally been built over millions of years.

Not always. I think it's like any relationship, you think if you work at it enough the other person may sort themselves out... It's only with experience you learn to spot the signs early.

I think we've all left bands, been chucked out of bands, been replaced, have bands fall apart on us. It's the nature of the beast. You'd never grow as a musician if you didn't move around and play differrnt music with different musicians. Just have to see it as an opportunity to try something new.

I think Guy Pratt summed it up quite well: "If you don't like bass players with strong political views, you picked the wrong band. If you think I'm bad, you should see the other fella."

No. I thought he meant that the bass and drums were large heavy sections like men and the other instruments were light and delicate like women.

Except that was exactly what he meant.

I thought men could now be seen as a bit girly as well nowadays. Not sure why being a man is positive and being a girl is negative. Even in this situation. Isn't a man being a man and a girl being a girl something that should be celebrated anymore? I have no problem with girls being manly or girls being girly. Or men being girly or manly. But I do know what manly and girly mean. Gender stereotypes are just that. Stereotypes. Music is all about sex anyway.

The band I was having trouble with went through 4 bass players in very quick secession after I left. Stand back and watch. Eventually he'll realise what the common denominator is (probably after enough people have told him) and sort himself out.

I played in a band for a long time where I was made to feel like the bad guy. I played a load of dep gigs and found another band, and realised it wasn't my timing and never had been.

@GreeneKing I wonder if the rest of his life is as chaotic and disorganised. Maybe talk to the drummer who seems to have some kind of understanding. But if it's all done and dusted, good luck with the next project and maybe you can spot this kind of behaviour earlier if you come across it again.