Hi, I'm a little late to the party, but I'll pitch in anyway.
If you have the funds I would advise looking at Roland, the TD17 and TD25 are solid modules.
If you're looking at second hand, you can pick up a good TD9 from ebay for a good price.
The Alessis kits seem to come in a slightly better price in the beginner level kits
Again if the budget allows , look for mesh drum heads as they have a feel and bounce that is closer to an acoustic kit.
My drumset is on the first floor, so to insulate everyone below me, I built a 'drum riser' from kids foam playmats topped with loft boards (I'm a tad heavy on the kick drum). When my daughter's downstairs, she still complains I'm "being noisy" when I play. (It's still way quieter than acoustic drums, but you have been warned).