[quote name='Graham' timestamp='1439227381' post='2841055']
Use their gear, carefully, and thank them for it
To be honest, I don't really get your position? :s
You don't own your own gear, but equally don't want to use other people's?
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I'm equally confused. You expect the promoter to provide backline but you don't want to use that of another band, and all the time you don't even own your own?!
Gear sharing is pretty much the norm for gigs these days. As a band you need to be in a position to actively take part in the gear share or you will be limiting the gigs you get offered.