If you’re going to approach it, next rehearsal.
do it before you start playing, before Captain ego is all fired up.
see if it makes any difference at all…
if not, I’d call it at the end of the session.
I didn’t like dreading meeting up with the band.
Singer is much more alpha male type than the rest of us - and as I provide most of the starting points for song ideas, I got a bit precious about them. And his ideas were generally pants - and he brought very little to the table, creatively,
Coupled with Captain nitpicker guitarist…
I just wanted to walk.
I challenged their behaviour, and they both quit.
Drummer and I carried on without them.
It was fine - just not as good with the new guys, and we went around in a random cycle of 5 half finished tunes.
Made me think about my behaviour towards them. I had to take some truths on the chin…
So we invited the old guys back.
Singer came back, he’d worked on lyrics, styles and skills - much improved.
Guitarist…no change. Nothing.
Constant fuss.
Invited his replacement back and it has been a “Goldilocks” combination since, and we have 12 songs ready to go - studio booked on the 19th.
So some people (myself and singer) will listen and adapt.
Some people…just won’t learn.
But everyone needs to be challenged if they’re creating problems.