Some years ago I joined a local soul band. We had a few practices and it was ok. Strange bunch of people, especially the keyboard player. The practices easied off after a while. One day I saw an add in the paper for a bass player and recognised the number of the singer. I phoned up and got her answer phone. I left a message for her and got one by return. She deliberatly left her message when I was at work so she didn't have to talk to me. She grovelled a bit and said they didn't think my feel was right for them!
I was miffed to say the least, but soon moved on, hope you do too.