Just watched some vids so that all seems rather fine.
You seem calm and confident on the videos - maybe the "not so good" bands don't think you'd be interested?
You're obviously not a flash, "pushing the envelope" type of player but in a lot of busy working bands, that fits the bill.
Don't be afraid to go for any gig- the worst they can say would be no which lets face it is the answer to the majority of applicants to any sought after position.
And remember the best player definitely doesn't always get the job- personality and work ethic often are more important traits.
Unless finance dictates that you have to sell your gear, don't. It's enough justification that you like and enjoy it. You know what will happen- you'll get rid of it all and then almost immediately somebody will offer you a gig lol!
Also maybe consider bands that are not *entirely* within your ideal genre- variety can be good fun also.
Best of luck to you.