My worst was unloading my brother, he wasn’t progressing as a guitarist as the rest of the (admittedly green) band were, he couldn’t commit to gigs for months on end because of his full time job.
We had a gig for my other brother (house warming/big birthday thing) who lives next door to my parents. So we (rest of the band) thought it would be a good place to end things, mistakenly as it turns out, but a quiet word was had by me afterwards! Where I was thinking that he would be in a place of support, and would understand that our gigs couldn’t be booked because of his work, and that was too much for a developing band to shoulder… He did a huge flounce and the rest of the family turned against me, quite nasty really!
Being fair, my reading of the best place to do things was off… And I’ve apologised about that… But his reading of the band dynamics was off, and realistically should have stepped aside months previously.
Though we are civil again, I lost the friendship of both brothers and to some degree my parents… was it worth it for a ”pub” band??? I guess it doesn’t matter… It’s already happened 😬