A bit of a weird situation, I'm interested in people's opinions.
Last summer I auditioned for a new band. I didn't get the gig because they decided I lived too far away for rehearsals and my "complicated" family situation (where I have my son every other weekend) meant that it made it difficult for me to commit to potential gigs. They liked my playing and wanted to use me as a dep if the situation occurred.
Fair enough.
Fast forward to early 2018, I get a call asking if I'm free in August as their bassist can't do a gig. Sure, I say, that's cool.
Last week I had a call asking if I could do two more gigs with them. The bassist they chose last year decided he couldn't commit any longer, so they wondered if I'd be happy being number 1 choice and he number 2 choice on any new enquiries? Sure, I say, that's cool.
Yesterday on Facebook I see them announce three more gigs this year, none of which I’ve been told about, saying that I will do the first and then they're pleased to announce their new bassist who'll do all the rest of the gigs. That includes the August gig which I'd already agreed to months ago.
Now I'll be honest, the band isn't one which I was desperate to be a part of but it would have been nice out gigging a bit since my band imploded two years ago and it certainly would have been nicer to have a conversation with someone rather than find out via Facebook. It’s left a sour taste in my mouth to be honest.
Is this a bit stinky poo and I’m right to feel aggrieved, or a fair response from them given their original reservations about my personal situation?