Try your EQ flat, which usually means everything at 12 o'clock. Sometimes it doesn't mean that however, in which case search TalkBass for 'Flat settings for XXX amp' - XXX being your amp, of course. When that's done, wind up the volume to where you want it. Make adjustments as necessary. As said, pushing the mids a little can cut through the mix. What you don't need is loads of low-end sloshing about. This will make everything sound muddy and boomy and is... not good.
But remember that the bass sound that is best in the mix for your band will probably sound horrible when you try it at home playing solo. A mix is just that, a combination of sounds. Individually they can sound terrible, together they can be sublime.