Am I over reacting?

[Dom in Dorset]

The story: I get an email saying that the X festival would like us to play there, no money but free ticket + some food. We played it a couple of years back and it was fun. Although I am available my wife is working so I'll have the kids that weekend so everything is going to be a bit more complex. The gig is in South wales so I'll be paying to cross the bridge and probably won't be able to stay over , so I won't get to use my free ticket.
Our lead guitarist can't make it but we might be able to get a really good electric fiddle player in as a dep, she knows most of our stuff anyway.
At this point I'm still happy to do the gig.
Then I get an email saying that one of the festival organizers wants to play "two or three" numbers with us on ...tea chest bass.
This is a 45 min slot (it probably incudes the sound check) , it's getting to a point where I have no interest in playing the gig.
I told them that as it's not the full band anyway and my attendance is tricky that weekend how about they do it as a smaller acoustic lineup and I'll sit it out. the others think it will get us brownie points but I just think it's a naff idea that I just can't cooperate with.
I think I'm being fairly diplomatic here ( some I've told about this said "if they said that to me I'd tell them to F#CK @FF!")

[Conan]

I'm with the "some you've told" on this one! Too much hassle by far.

[Earbrass]

If you don't fancy it, don't do it. You're not getting paid, and one of the other band members has already ducked out - I don't see why you should feel bad about not going.

[Len_derby]

It sounds like the balance is far too much in the festival's favour on this one. I'd say diplomatically and politely decline, without burning any bridges (even the one across the River Severn).
You never know, they might just come back with a better offer, particularly as one of the organisers seems to have a itch he needs to scratch (on stage, with you).

Edited May 16, 2012 by Len_derby

[MrTaff]

That sound like way too much hassle for me, I'd have no problem not doing the gig.

[JTUK]

Nothing worse that be cajoled into doing a gig that you don't fancy ( for one reason or another ) and end up paying for the priviledge.

If you don't want a fight over it..just use the 'child care' card and sorry, no can do..!!

[BassBod]

I really don't see any reason to do it..........unless the food is spectacular (and you just know.....it'll probably get forgotten on the day, man)

You have better things to do, believe me.

[chris_b]

You're not getting paid?

What more is there to consider?

[musophilr]

Seems like you should be politely "unable to play the gig".

[LeftyBiskit]

[quote name='JTUK' timestamp='1337178735' post='1656740']
Nothing worse that be cajoled into doing a gig that you don't fancy ( for one reason or another ) and end up paying for the priviledge.

If you don't want a fight over it..just use the 'child care' card and sorry, no can do..!!
[/quote]

I'm with JTUK on this,sounds like to much aggro for nowt!
in a dragons den style "I'm out"

[thepurpleblob]

Does festival X charge admission?

If the answer is "yes" then f**k o** is the appropriate answer.

[skidder652003]

its a no brainer really, isnt it?

[Gust0o]

I'm out.

Want to play live with a tea chest bass? Form your own shanty band.

[Dom in Dorset]

I had a short discussion with the band member who was negotiating this gig last night, he saw sense and unless we get a radically different offer we're out.

[Monckyman]

lol @"short discussion"

[pietruszka]

Is this festival the one in June at Monmouth?






Dan

[Dom in Dorset]

[quote name='pietruszka' timestamp='1337252563' post='1657782']
Is this festival the one in June at Monmouth?






Dan
[/quote]
No.
The discussion was good natured, no harm done.

[pietruszka]

[quote name='Dom in Somerset' timestamp='1337253332' post='1657823']
No.
The discussion was good natured, no harm done.
[/quote]
No worries, I was curious as my band are playing that one and we just managed to get expenses driving from Newcastle.





Dan