MacDaddy Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 ... you had never been in a band with them? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gary mac Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Most certainly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gary mac Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Most certainly not with some members of the band that I left last year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KevB Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 In some bands it has been the case and in others not. Current band? probably not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartelby Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 We were friends before we were in a band... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paul_5 Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Probably. Some of my best friendships have been formed with band members. I'm not in bands with them anymore but we're still great mates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gust0o Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 [quote name='bartelby' timestamp='1369817085' post='2092946'] We were friends before we were in a band... [/quote] This. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Jack Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Ye Gods! You wouldn't believe the guy we have on lead guitar ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpaceChick Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 My last two bands, I can think of two people that I would be friends with.... And I am in contact with them after leaving the bands. My current band, I like everyone and we get on well, but I'm not sure they "get" my warped sense of humour, so maybe we wouldn't be friends in real life outside the band? That said, we do have fun but it's the music that holds us together, and to me that's just fine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigRedX Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Band members are just like any other people you work with. Some of them you want to see outside of work, some of them you don't. Some of my very best friends are people I used to be in bands with. IMO the people who continue to be friends outside of the band are those you have something in common with other than you are in a band together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lozz196 Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 With both of my bands, I was mates with some of them before joining. Not close mates, but friendly enough to chat etc at gigs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cat Burrito Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I'm 100% in agreement with BigRedX here (he's obviously not talking about 70s Fenders!). I don't dislike anyone I've worked with but a couple of people in my 2 current bands I probably wouldn't actively seek out after the band ends. Just a case of little in common outside of the band. I think you should at least be able to tolerate people. And I believe I am working with people who are likely to be the types of friends that are friends for life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
L_Bass_Dog85 Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Yes. I had known our guitarist before the band was formed but get on with the singer a lot more. We socialise outside of the band a lot more as our minds are on the same wave length despite the 19 year age gap though! The dude has been here for me over the last couple of weeks since I split up with the girlfriend, that says something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Vader Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Yep, although to be fair, I would have been unlikely to run into and become friends with the 2 16 year olds in my current band, what with being 20 years older than them. Some people I've been in bands with however, really no, really really... BRX has the right of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BernardJazz Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Depends who it is, I don't speak to anyone in the previous band I was in except the drummer, although he's my brother so that's kind of different. I get along great with my current band though, I had never met two of them and only had occasional drunken banter with the drummer at open mic nights prior to forming the band. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EssentialTension Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 [quote name='BigRedX' timestamp='1369818903' post='2092977'] Band members are just like any other people you work with. Some of them you want to see outside of work, some of them you don't. [/quote] Yes exactly that. I'd just add that you have to look for and work at two things when you work with people - what you have in common and how you complement each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dad3353 Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Presently in my old age, it's a family affair; I drum with our two sons and a couple of buddies. Back then, as a 'pro' drummer for variety bands, it was a job, and 'friendship' was not a factor. They were colleagues, or workmates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arthurhenry Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 You mean you can have friends outside your bands?!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gust0o Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 You have to spend time with them; and you can chose bandmates much more readily than you can choose work colleagues. So why not have someone you like? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4-string-thing Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Can't answer this, as I have no friends, no band and (very soon) no job! Jeez, I'm screwed! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seashell Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Singer in number 2 band - yes definitely. We are girlies with quite a lot in common. Drummer - we get on very well musically and he is a really nice bloke. But probably wouldn't be huge friends outside the band. He's very quiet (yes contradiction in terms for a drummer I know!) and also a lot younger than me. Not that this would preclude a friendship, but it's just that we don't have that many common reference points. The rest of them are a bunch of chumps, so no not really. It's a shame though, because I was hoping to get a bit more socially out of it. I've always socialised with my drama and comedy buddies. But I guess with them there is a bigger pool to draw on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jayben Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Ehh, probably only the guitarist of the metal band. Other than that, I very much doubt it, predominantly because I tend to meet people through the band. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Westie9 Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Friends or acquaintances? There's a big difference between the two... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaulWarning Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I've been in the same band for 8 years and found it difficult to stay close friends with band members after a while, due to disagreements, always remember an interview with Pete Townsend, after (what he thought) was the Who's last tour he said "it's the happiest I've ever been knowing I wouldn't have to see the rest of the band ever again" struck a chord with me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lfalex v1.1 Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 [quote name='BurritoBass' timestamp='1369820385' post='2092993'] I don't dislike anyone I've worked with ... I think you should at least be able to tolerate people. [/quote] Well, there's my problem right there. I can't abide work, and many of my "colleagues" are simply Satan's apostles in disguise. By the time I'm done at work, 1) There is no time 2) I'm utterly "peopled-out" So I just can't commit to this band stuff. In the past, I have generally found the drummers to be the good guys. With the odd notable exception. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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