Our drummer on about quitting the band

[kevvo66]

Well he's had enough if he goes I'm going to ,I love working with him we seem too lock in really well and I don't think I want to work with anyone else , so when our gigs are honoured he gonna hang up his sticks and I think I'll just noodle at home or should I move on ?

[acidbass]

Can he be replaced? Bear in mind a new drummer could potentially bring a lot more to the table than you expect - musically, socially or whatever.

[Subbeh]

Don't just give up! you may never have the same thing going on with another drummer but who
knows? You might find something better or just something unexpected and great in it's own right.

At least give it a chance before you call time on it

Edited February 2, 2016 by Subbeh

[Doctor J]

If you enjoy it, at least give it some timw with the new guy. It might be worth talking to the current guy, see if a break would suffice. Find out what's eating at him and see if something can be done to take away some of it. As Kate Bush advised Peter Gabriel, "Don't give up"

[Phil Starr]

I don't understand why people don't talk more. You say [b]if[/b] he goes. I'm assuming the rest of the band either aren't in on this or are unwilling to change to keep him happy. If you both leave there is no band, unless you have a queue of other musicians just waiting to sign up. Is it a music thing, a personality clash or just boredom? I'd certainly be thinking of at least talking it through with the rest of the band.

Secondly you don't seem to know if he wants to go on playing with you. A decent rhythm section could be snapped up by another band or form the basis of a new band where the two of you could set it up to give you the things you are missing. I'd invite him out for a session at the pub to at least explore the possibilities.

Finally there's my wife's advice, 'don't put out your dirty underwear until you know you have clean' I'd be absolutely sure what I was going to do next before quitting a band. You might find the new drummer better or worse but it gives you time to find another band if you continue, and them time to bed the new drummer in before you move on.

Good luck though

[4stringslow]

Don't let other people influence what you do with your life. Decide for yourself what you want and go for it!

Edited February 2, 2016 by 4stringslow

[Lozz196]

I`d say wait until the replacement joins before making any decisions. Who knows, they may be even better and it may give you a new enthusiasm for the band as a whole.

[BottomE]

Hang on and see how the new fella fits in if this is just about the music although i suspect there is probably more to it than that

[Hobbayne]

[quote name='Lozz196' timestamp='1454403420' post='2969295']
I`d say wait until the replacement joins before making any decisions. Who knows, they may be even better and it may give you a new enthusiasm for the band as a whole.
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Agreed. There are loads of drummers out there which you havent played with yet, who may blow your socks off!
However, if your band is in its final throws anyway,then you know what do do.

[EliasMooseblaster]

[quote name='Hobbayne' timestamp='1454404756' post='2969311']
Agreed. There are loads of drummers out there which you havent played with yet, who may blow your socks off!
However, if your band is in its final throws anyway,then you know what do do.
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Also agreed - I say this as part of a band that's now had to change its lead singer twice. Each time we have managed to find someone who's actually enhanced our stage presence. Obviously we hope the current one won't leave, (because you never know when your luck's going to run out!) but it's proven to us that losing a band member isn't the end of the world.

[kevvo66]

He's got issues with how the guitarist,vocals is speaking to him and I can see his point

[sunburstjazz1967]

Kick the knob end singer/guitarist out instead then, they are the easiest to replace ime!

[CHW]

Drummers are like sexual partners, you love the one you're with.

[Skybone]

I'm with sunburst. Guitarist's & singers are ten-a-penny, but a good drummer is like rocking horse poop.

Edited February 2, 2016 by Skybone

[keefbaker]

Yeah, there's a reason drummers are in like 10 bands each. Bin the singer off. Or both quit and start a new band.

[JTUK]

Move on if you have the enrgy. There is always someone better and playing with a lot of drummers refines what you like and expect
from a drummer.

If you play with one who excels at Blues, for example, they can teach you a LOT about that genre.
The trick is not to be as pidgeon-holed tho, IMV.

[Phil Starr]

Personality clash then. Just the three of you or are there any more band members?