Quit my band ,best decision I've made in years

[kevvo66]

Quit today had a enough of current band line up,wasted no time in advertising for a replacment for me ,so where do I go from here no idea but what a weight lifted off my shoulders

[spyder]

Great news... it can be a big gamble but will free your mind and spirit and open up new musical adventures.
Good luck :-)

[keefbaker]

Politics to fun ratio.

When it stops being more fun than politics, kick it to the kerb.

[FuNkShUi]

[quote name='keefbaker' timestamp='1460385888' post='3025219']
Politics to fun ratio.

[/quote]

Like that

[KevB]

Yep, even though I knew my opportunities wouldn't be great as an over 50 I walked from last 2 bands as it just wasn't matching my expectations any more. Hope someting comes up you can get your teeth into soon.

[kevvo66]

I also like ,kick it to kerb

[karlfer]

Well done that man.

I quit one of the 2 bands I was in, four weeks ago.
Two of the members have not even acknowledged it.
No announcement on Facebook page.
Important me, eh

[Tim Chapple]

Good luck in your new projects - I did something similar last year, and felt a huge sense of freedom.
Be prepared to start from the beginning again though, gigs you took for granted are hard to reclaim.

[RickyV]

[quote name='karlfer' timestamp='1460386927' post='3025235']
Well done that man.

I quit one of the 2 bands I was in, four weeks ago.
Two of the members have not even acknowledged it.
No announcement on Facebook page.
Important me, eh
[/quote]

One of our guitarists quit the band today. I have no intention of acknowledging it.
It will get a mention on the Facebook page when his name gets removed and that will be about it.

[skidder652003]

wow, lots of quitting going on! Ive been in the same gigging band for getting on 6 years now, and they were the first 2 blokes who answered my ad! I guess i got lucky although we have our differences now and again, but i have been pretty flexible when it comes to choosing songs, getting the round in, not mentioning the smelly trainers and general twatiness of the other 2...!

[karlfer]

[quote name='RickyV' timestamp='1460393429' post='3025343']
One of our guitarists quit the band today. I have no intention of acknowledging it.
It will get a mention on the Facebook page when his name gets removed and that will be about it.
[/quote]

So, you wouldn't have the courtesy of acknowledging an email of resignation? Perhaps that may be indicative of one of the reasons the guitarist left.
Well, each to their own standards I guess.
I wish they would take my name off the Facebook page. And stop putting photos of me on it.
They were quick enough to cancel my admin duties on it.

Edited April 11, 2016 by karlfer

[kevvo66]

All night long by Lionel Richie pushed me over the edge Lionel Richie for f***s sake , 😱

Edited April 11, 2016 by kevvo66

[xgsjx]

Sit back & think about what sort of music you would enjoy playing the most, then join/start a band that fills your musical needs.

[RickyV]

[quote name='karlfer' timestamp='1460399821' post='3025437']
So, you wouldn't have the courtesy of acknowledging an email of resignation? Perhaps that may be indicative of one of the reasons the guitarist left.
Well, each to their own standards I guess.
I wish they would take my name off the Facebook page. And stop putting photos of me on it.
They were quick enough to cancel my admin duties on it.
[/quote]

If it were under different circumstances yes. The guitarist has essentially (although quietly) thrown his toys out of the pram as things arent going exactly as he wants them to and with little regard to others in the band. He was also the reason our original singer left in january. Things will be better without him and we can get back to enjoying the band again and it being fun. Which is the whole point. It's his choice and I am not wasting time sending 'so sorry to hear you're leaving' messages!

[karlfer]

[quote name='RickyV' timestamp='1460402066' post='3025468']
If it were under different circumstances yes. The guitarist has essentially (although quietly) thrown his toys out of the pram as things arent going exactly as he wants them to and with little regard to others in the band. He was also the reason our original singer left in january. Things will be better without him and we can get back to enjoying the band again and it being fun. Which is the whole point. It's his choice and I am not wasting time sending 'so sorry to hear you're leaving' messages!
[/quote]

We are going to have to agree to disagree.
Unless violence or illegality are involved, everybody deserves an acknowledgement of communications. To me it's only courtesy.

In my case it was because the other three booked 2 x 40 minute gigs in Europe (4 days away in total) without me agreeing to it. Final straw.

[Lozz196]

[quote name='karlfer' timestamp='1460386927' post='3025235']
Well done that man.

I quit one of the 2 bands I was in, four weeks ago.
Two of the members have not even acknowledged it.
No announcement on Facebook page.
Important me, eh
[/quote]

Same happened to me when I quit a band a few years ago, most of the band sent a message but both guitarists didn`t acknowledge it at all. Poor show me-thought.

[RickyV]

[quote name='karlfer' timestamp='1460403193' post='3025476']
We are going to have to agree to disagree.
Unless violence or illegality are involved, everybody deserves an acknowledgement of communications. To me it's only courtesy.

In my case it was because the other three booked 2 x 40 minute gigs in Europe (4 days away in total) without me agreeing to it. Final straw.
[/quote]

I see what you are saying. It's not as if there wont be an acknowledgement from 'the band', there will be and our other guitarist (whom the aforementioned guitarist considered the band 'leader') will no doubt have done that. I just dont see the need for each individual band member to send a separate message.

[RhysP]

All the most petty, childish behaviour I've encountered in my adult life has been while I've been in bands, which is yet another reason why I stopped gigging years ago & I'll never be in another band.

Edited April 11, 2016 by RhysP

[RickyV]

[quote name='Lozz196' timestamp='1460403896' post='3025483']
Same happened to me when I quit a band a few years ago, most of the band sent a message but both guitarists didn`t acknowledge it at all. Poor show me-thought.
[/quote]

I think a lot does depend on the circumstances behind the band member leaving. Either way, you guys have started to make me feel guilty now!! I will sleep on it!

[Happy Jack]

Last time I left a band, I did it so quietly and with such subtlety that I later discovered the other two didn't realise I'd left.

Sad to relate, this is not an attempt at humour. We're playing a gig on Saturday.

sh*t!

[cheddatom]

Haha, unlucky Jack!

[quote name='RhysP' timestamp='1460404838' post='3025493']
All the most petty, childish behaviour I've encountered in my adult life has been while I've been in bands, which is yet another reason why I stopped gigging years ago & I'll never be in another band.
[/quote]

Obviously I read a lot of this stuff on here, so I know it's true, but I've been in about 8 bands so far and only one had a fall out, and that was very civil. I'm currently in 4 bands and we all get on really well. The only childishness is some of the humour. Sorry you've been so unlucky!

[RAY AGAINST THE MACHINE]

[quote name='kevvo66' timestamp='1460400550' post='3025449']
All night long by Lionel Richie pushed me over the edge Lionel Richie for f***s sake , 😱
[/quote]

Would love to see the rest of the set list

[karlfer]

[quote name='RAY AGAINST THE MACHINE' timestamp='1460453385' post='3025765']
Would love to see the rest of the set list
[/quote]

FOR GOD'S SAKE DON'T MENTION Friends

[hairychris]

[quote name='RhysP' timestamp='1460404838' post='3025493']
All the most petty, childish behaviour I've encountered in my adult life has been while I've been in bands, which is yet another reason why I stopped gigging years ago & I'll never be in another band.
[/quote]

Absolutely true, but lots of us still do it anyway!

But it's absolutely the case that sometimes just getting the hell out of there is the only thing to do. If it's a toxic situation and it isn't paying the rent then it's just not worth the hassle.

Edit: I was recently involved in a singer-sacking situation. No one dealt with it well, myself included!

Edited April 12, 2016 by hairychris

[RAY AGAINST THE MACHINE]

[quote name='karlfer' timestamp='1460453495' post='3025768']


FOR GOD'S SAKE DON'T MENTION Friends
[/quote]

We llll, I played a metal version of I will survive .
Actually survived;) I'm just curious .
How bad can it be ?