Musicman20 Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 [quote name='dood' timestamp='1472118285' post='3118621'] I just wanted to quote this, because that's me. Music, Guitars, Drums, Music Software, Electronics, Playing, Seeing people play, Learning Music, Teaching Music, Reviewing gear, Everything, EVERYTHING. I'm totally consumed by it and wanting to know more about it all. You are quite right, no one [i]should[/i] stop you from doing something you love. Especially when it's what you do to keep a roof over the heads of your family. [/quote] Glad you agree! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Musicman20 Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 (edited) [quote name='AndyTravis' timestamp='1472078586' post='3118422'] My wife thinks I'm mad because I never keep hold of stuff... She loves the gear, allocated me a room in the new house, encourages, supports, and actively presses me to play. She 'hates' the fact I sold my Custom Shop 55 to Beedster... She 'misses' a 1977 Precision bass I had... She laughs when gear turns up..."more bloody scratchplates and thingies have come in the post..." She comes to gigs, and tells me what she thinks. I'm a lucky bloke, and I'll be dead honest - I wouldn't stick around if someone made me feel like I had to stop or reduce my playing/gear. [/quote] Sounds like my circs....sounds good to me! Secretly, let's face it, most ladies like a guy to have a cool hobby. Music is cool, no matter what anyone thinks. Creating/playing/writing music is a good skill to have, and it shows you have an interesting side to your personality. And, to be balanced, if I dated/lived with a lady who played in a band and spent a lot of time on music, I would love it...it's an attractive attribute to be a musician. I have to also add this would also apply to same sex couples, obviously! Edited August 25, 2016 by Musicman20 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RockfordStone Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 i was a musician when i met my wife, and she knows it comes as part of the deal. as long as they are in their own place and not cluttering the house she is fine. she does say i have too many, but then when i say "im selling x guitar" she is like no you can't sell that one.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Dare Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 My late missus varied. Loved my Martin 00028, was indifferent to the basses ("planks"). Liked a nice grained piece of wood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4stringslow Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 [quote name='RockfordStone' timestamp='1472123348' post='3118681'] i was a musician when i met my wife, and she knows it comes as part of the deal. [/quote] This nails it for me. Everyone has their own interests and foibles and trying to change or restrict a person seems a recipe for an early parting of the ways to me. Why would anyone want to do such a thing to someone they purport to love? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dood Posted August 26, 2016 Share Posted August 26, 2016 [quote name='4stringslow' timestamp='1472160968' post='3119081'] This nails it for me. Everyone has their own interests and foibles and trying to change or restrict a person seems a recipe for an early parting of the ways to me. Why would anyone want to do such a thing to someone they purport to love? [/quote] Indeed. I agree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tauzero Posted August 26, 2016 Share Posted August 26, 2016 The first Mrs Zero was quite supportive of my playing in bands - she came to some, but not all gigs. The second Mrs Zero, after a brief semi-enthusiastic period, was indifferent to it (well, she was pretty indifferent to me, as long as I kept a roof over our heads and she only had to work enough hours in the week to pay for her booze and fags). The third (and current) Mrs Zero is enthusiastic about it, and has finished up being the singer in one band, and in our acoustic duo. I don't think I could cope with a relationship with someone who was either actively or passively opposed to my playing in bands. In the same way, I couldn't cope with someone who didn't like me riding bikes (all three Mrs Zeros have been enthusiastic bikers, so that's never been a problem). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skybone Posted August 26, 2016 Share Posted August 26, 2016 My packages are usually for the 'bike or the guitars. She just roll's her eyes and makes a quip "garage or study?". She likes eBay & baking. Obviously, I tolerate the baking... my waistline isn't that much of a fan. She's actually actively encouraged me to try and get another band going, and actually said that my current No.1 bass was the nicest I've had. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dood Posted August 26, 2016 Share Posted August 26, 2016 [quote name='tauzero' timestamp='1472204854' post='3119379'] I don't think I could cope with a relationship with someone who was either actively or passively opposed to my playing in bands. {snip} [/quote] Well, once they've taken your self-belief and confidence, they might as well strike off your passion too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delius Posted September 5, 2016 Share Posted September 5, 2016 Of my 3 basses I [i]think[/i] the missus is only aware of 1. I get stuff delivered to me at work... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Funky Dunky Posted September 6, 2016 Share Posted September 6, 2016 (edited) Ex was supportive, encouraging, let me practice unplugged when we watched TV and never once complained. I think she liked it. She never once said stop or "go and play your bass" - she would say "go and get your bass". Asked questions, too, like "Did you just make that riff up on the spot?" Current partner doesn't say much but lets me keep my amp in the living room, hasn't complained yet and even offered to buy me a BIGGER amp for my 40th! It's early days though, the truth will out at some point - be it good or bad. Edited September 6, 2016 by Funky Dunky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markstuk Posted September 6, 2016 Share Posted September 6, 2016 No problems with mine, although she was sort of surprised at the cost of my DIngwall Z3.. Went a bit quiet for a few minutes :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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