yorks5stringer Posted June 2, 2018 Share Posted June 2, 2018 If the Mrs is moaning have you checked she's not just transferring the moan about something else onto the gear? Have you removed that motorbike you were renovating from the kitchen yet? Has the water been re-connected since you put a nail through one of the pipes when putting up a Bass hanger? Do you still store used editions of Bass Guitar Magazine in the bed and when re-stringing a bass do you casually toss the old strings across to her side? Just sayin'.... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsmedunc Posted June 2, 2018 Author Share Posted June 2, 2018 7 hours ago, taunton-hobbit said: Surely she knew you played in a band? ..........'stuff' goes with the job............ That's what I say! 5 hours ago, scalpy said: My tactic- Marry the singer. He wouldn't like that. Well, his wife wouldn't! 2 hours ago, Silvia Bluejay said: Or marry another bass player! 😄 Can't have 2 miserable bastards in the house 😂 2 hours ago, chris_b said: Have I read this right, your wife doesn't like you dumping your gear in the hall? So don't do it. Sometimes my gear sits in the hall but usually I'll load the car without using the hall as a staging post and I always put the gear away after a gig. My wife's pretty good. She has more stuff dotted around the house than I do so we have an equilibrium. But as I have commandeered a biggish part of the front room for my gear my aim is to keep life as confrontation free as I can. It's all usually hidden. Been busy today so had to leave it in the hall temporarily... 52 minutes ago, arthurhenry said: It's ok for her to moan about stuff cluttering up the hall. A moan is just a moan and hopefully she has an understanding of why you need to do this and is supportive of your musical endeavors. If she's not; that's a chat you should have had on day one. She hasn't moaned since the first quip! I'm amazed! I'll make sure it's all hidden again tomorrow for inspection! 💂♂️😂 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12stringbassist Posted June 2, 2018 Share Posted June 2, 2018 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Hartleys-Natural-Panel-Wicker-Divider/dp/B00CECB55G/ref=sr_1_12?ie=UTF8&qid=1527956669&sr=8-12&keywords=folding+screen+room+divider I have one hiding a multitude of gear and it was my wife that bought it (though I did suggest it a while before)!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twanger Posted June 2, 2018 Share Posted June 2, 2018 Have you tried that "That's a lot of shoes!" tactic? But you probably want to stay married. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thepurpleblob Posted June 2, 2018 Share Posted June 2, 2018 Are we qualified to give relationship advice? 😲 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twanger Posted June 2, 2018 Share Posted June 2, 2018 1 hour ago, thepurpleblob said: Are we qualified to give relationship advice? 😲 I'm not even qualified to play bass. Yet I do. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsmedunc Posted June 2, 2018 Author Share Posted June 2, 2018 I've tried everything apart from the hitman! 😀 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12stringbassist Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 "That PA is big" They don't come smaller. Take her with you shopping for a smaller PA and steer her to the big stuff. "That bass rig is big" I have to be heard and it's still a small rig. Take her with you shopping for a smaller rig and steer her to the big stuff. "Two bass guitars..." Several different arguments - safety backup always wins. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yank Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 Tell her you could quit the band and sell all the gear but then you'd be moping around the house and she wouldn't get her "alone time". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taunton-hobbit Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 Now and again, along comes a thread that reminds me of why I'm never going to get married/co-habitate again............. ...........and b r e a t h e ............... 😊 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
discreet Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 7 minutes ago, taunton-hobbit said: Now and again, along comes a thread that reminds me of why I'm never going to get married/co-habitate again... ...and b r e a t h e ... Good call. But they do say that two can live as cheaply as one. To which I would add, IF you both want to end up mentally ill. Have a lovely Sunday, everyone! Hello clouds! Hello sky! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BreadBin Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 I think this thread shows that there should be recognition of each other's needs in a successful relationship. For example, my missus has no say over how many instruments I cram into my music room (as long as I am making my contribution to household running costs) whilst I accept that she can have as many wierd additions to her musical therapy space as she likes. Currently I have 19 bass guitars and 2 6-strings. She has loads of singing bowls, a massive gong, a koto/monochord in one, several drums, a tongue drum and a Rav drum. I was asked to help her decide which Rav drum to get which is why she ended up with one tuned to B Dorian - it goes lovely with a 5-string bass 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
discreet Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 (edited) 6 minutes ago, BreadBin said: I have 19 bass guitars and 2 6-strings. She has loads of singing bowls, a massive gong, a koto/monochord in one, several drums, a tongue drum and a Rav drum. I have two bass guitars and one six-string. She has loads of minging bowls, a massive thong, a proto-monotone, big bum, wagging tongue and a Rav 4. Edited June 3, 2018 by discreet 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BreadBin Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 9 minutes ago, discreet said: I have two bass guitars and one six-string. She has loads of minging bowls, a massive thong, a proto-monotone, big bum, wagging tongue and a Rav 4. I think I'll stick with the one I have! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
discreet Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 2 minutes ago, BreadBin said: I think I'll stick with the one I have! Yes, as long as you leave the music therapy space out of any arguments, you'll be fine... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BreadBin Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 Just now, discreet said: Yes, as long as you leave the music therapy space out of any arguments, you'll be fine... No danger there - my room is twice the size so I'm definitely leaving that argument well alone! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cato Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 24 minutes ago, BreadBin said: I think this thread shows that there should be recognition of each other's needs in a successful relationship. For example, my missus has no say over how many instruments I cram into my music room (as long as I am making my contribution to household running costs) whilst I accept that she can have as many wierd additions to her musical therapy space as she likes. Currently I have 19 bass guitars and 2 6-strings. She has loads of singing bowls, a massive gong, a koto/monochord in one, several drums, a tongue drum and a Rav drum. I was asked to help her decide which Rav drum to get which is why she ended up with one tuned to B Dorian - it goes lovely with a 5-string bass I don't think my nerves could take living in a house where a massive gong could be deployed at any moment. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
odysseus Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 1 hour ago, taunton-hobbit said: Now and again, along comes a thread that reminds me of why I'm never going to get married/co-habitate again............. ...........and b r e a t h e ............... 😊 Amen to that, sir. Never again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodinblack Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 1 hour ago, BreadBin said: Currently I have 19 bass guitars and 2 6-strings. Oh good, I thought i had an excessive number. Now I can buy more 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BreadBin Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 (edited) 34 minutes ago, Woodinblack said: Oh good, I thought i had an excessive number. Now I can buy more Glad I could help mate! Edited June 3, 2018 by BreadBin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12stringbassist Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 My wife is (quite) tolerant of 50 guitars, 3 bass rigs and a few guitar amps, some of which make it into the house. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lemmywinks Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 On 01/06/2018 at 17:36, itsmedunc said: First thing the Mrs says is - "That's a lot of equipment". Glance admiringly at your gear, hands on hips with a proud look on your face and say: "Yes it is isn't it dear? Thanks for noticing, I've spent a lot of time and effort assembling it." It's good she's taking an interest in your hobbies, that's the foundations of a strong relationship. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rich Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 On 01/06/2018 at 22:58, fleabag said: Inflatable wife ? I had one of those once. I tried nibbling her earlobe, but she farted and flew out of the window and I never saw her again. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fleabag Posted June 3, 2018 Share Posted June 3, 2018 You were onto a winner. Not many can fart out of their ears Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paul_5 Posted June 4, 2018 Share Posted June 4, 2018 5 hours ago, fleabag said: You were onto a winner. Not many can fart out of their ears *Sigh* it’s always the good ones that get away... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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