Band relations by numbers

[seashell]

I'd say 4-4-0-0

One is a very old friend, the other two are friends of his who I got to know through him. I guess I'd consider them as friends now, although I wouldn't socialise with them without him. 

[fleabag]

29 minutes ago, Len_derby said:

Currently in two trios.

3300 & 3300

So you 're friends with yourself ?  In both bands ?  Cool  

 

[fleabag]

1 hour ago, Deanol said:

Wht doesn't the first number equal the sum of the remaining numbers? Is there a missing state?

For the record, mine is 0-0-0-0

Because first number is how many in the band, which obviously includes you.  How many are friends wouldnt include you, but i see some here have included themselves as friends. 

 

[cjm_2019]

1 hour ago, oZZma said:

I could never play with someone I dislike, regardless of how good he could be

Same. I left the last musical project I was in when I realised just how badly I'd been mistreated by my 'bandmate'. He was beyond controlling and, looking back, I understand that our relationship was never one of equals. It was his way or nothing. He actually flat out declared he'd never play a riff I'd written  - I should have walked then.

The straw that broke the camel's back was him being a silly billy to me at our last rehearsal - a rehearsal that I'd busted my derrière to get to, two days after my girlfriend's mother had died of cancer.

He really was a c**t. I wasted several years on that project.
 

[ahpook]

0-0-0-1

I'm not in a band, but I've still fallen out with the guitarist.

Edited February 1, 2019 by ahpook

[Guest oZZma]

29 minutes ago, cjm_2019 said:

Same. I left the last musical project I was in when I realised just how badly I'd been mistreated by my 'bandmate'. He was beyond controlling and, looking back, I understand that our relationship was never one of equals. It was his way or nothing. He actually flat out declared he'd never play a riff I'd written  - I should have walked then.

The straw that broke the camel's back was him being a silly billy to me at our last rehearsal - a rehearsal that I'd busted my derrière to get to, two days after my girlfriend's mother had died of cancer.

He really was a c**t. I wasted several years on that project.
 

Wow. That's truly a c*nt.

IMO if there is not at least a little bit of sympathy, spending all that time together will be not fun at all. I understand people that make music for living, but if you do it for the pleasure... 

[Cat Burrito]

I'm in (to varying degrees) about 5 bands at present and they are all friends. I won't work with people I can't get on with. I don't earn enough for that! I've done it in the past and life is too short.

[BreadBin]

4-3-0-0

I like all of my fellow musicianists. 

[Huge Hands]

I play bass guitar with a concert (woodwind and brass) band, so on average:

40:12:0:0

I've surprised myself by not being able to think of anyone I really, actively dislike, in all of those people.  However, in my relatively much smaller last gigging blues band, the ratio was:

5:2:0:1

I really struggled to deal with the drummer's odd ways.  His drumming was fine though....

 

 

[Lozz196]

1 hour ago, Cat Burrito said:

I won't work with people I can't get on with. I don't earn enough for that! I've done it in the past and life is too short.

Pretty much nails it for me too. We`re a 3-piece, both the other guys are my mates. 

[PatrickJ]

1 hour ago, Cat Burrito said:

I'm in (to varying degrees) about 5 bands at present and they are all friends. I won't work with people I can't get on with. I don't earn enough for that! I've done it in the past and life is too short.

How on earth do you have time for five bands??!!!! 😱

Edited February 1, 2019 by PJ-Bassist

[josie]

5 hours ago, Mickeyboro said:

The total number of people in your band

The number you would call friends

The number who are colleagues

The number you actively dislike

5 - 4 - 0 - 0 

"Friends" being peeps I would go out of my way to spend time with outside of music and (mutually) trust with serious life stuff. 

[PaulWarning]

suppose it depends how busy the band is as well, I get on better with people outside the band, I am guilty of fighting my corner with a little bit to much enthusiasm at times, I was watching a documentary and it was saying, correctly in my view, that the longer a band goes on the less time the members spend together, so with that in mind

4111

[Mykesbass]

5,2,2,0 - wouldn't call the two 19 year olds friends, but get on well with all of them.

[kusee pee]

4300

Plus we have 3 sound guys who I would describe as being friendly with.  Only of the band was I friends with before we started but, after ten years, I regard the band as all close friends of mine I could always rely on.  That doesn't mean that they all don't get on my tits on a regular basis though 😅

[Norris]

3-2-0-0

I'm too old to mess about with people I don't get on with. I'm pretty easy going, but there are 1 or 2 ex-bandmates that moved from 2nd column to 4th over a number of years 

[Cat Burrito]

4 hours ago, PJ-Bassist said:

How on earth do you have time for five bands??!!!! 😱

Collectively they make for one busy band. Individually nothing is that busy (at the moment).

[BassTractor]

4-0-0-3, but then again we're called The Rickenbackers (as the other three guys have the surname Hall)
😐

Edited February 2, 2019 by BassTractor

[mcnach]

10 hours ago, Mickeyboro said:

Just for fun...

List: the total number of people in your band 

The number you would call friends

The number who are colleagues

The number you actively dislike

My band: 4-0-2-1

Maybe there’s a coefficient of happiness hidden in there somewhere?

 

8-3-0-0

7-1-0-0

4-1-0-0

 

There was a band that went from 4-2-0-0 to 4-2-0-1, and then I killed the band (it was my project). I don't think I can be in a band where I actively dislike anyone... (it's not my job... at work I do dislike actively a few people  )

 

edit: the definition of 'friends' is important, 'though. I don't call many people 'a friend', to me that's someone with whom I have a special connection. I suspect that others may be a bit more... accommodating in their definitions, and from their perspective I'd easily be 8-6-0-0, 7-5-0-0, etc...

Edited February 1, 2019 by mcnach

[mingsta]

Haha! 4-4-0-0 for me. Shame our singer has moved up north, which means we only gig half a dozen times a year now. Oops correction 4-3-0-0 as you can't be a friend to herself! 😪

Edited February 1, 2019 by mingsta

[Les]

4-1-0-0.5 ish

Edited February 2, 2019 by Les

[tauzero]

3-2-0-0

4-1-2-0 (I've known the 1 about 15 years, the others a couple of months)

4-0-3-0 (should be 5-x-x-x but we still haven't got a singer and I've only done 3 rehearsals with them)

I think I've actively disliked one former bandmate, about 30 years ago (she was the band leader and she eventually sacked me). But there's been a few I haven't actually disliked but would describe as being self-abusers.

[stewblack]

Band A:

1: 5

2: 1

3: 1

4: 2

Band B:

1: 7

2: 3

3: 3

4: 0

Band C

1: 6

2: 3

3: 1

4: 1

Scores reflect some new members about whom I am of course still neutral.

To those who won't gig with anyone they don't like, that used to be me too. I ended up not gigging.

Edited February 2, 2019 by stewblack

[Len_derby]

17 hours ago, fleabag said:

So you 're friends with yourself ?  In both bands ?  Cool  

 

Can't beat a bit of self-love. 😉

[Paul S]

9 hours ago, mcnach said:

edit: the definition of 'friends' is important, 'though. I don't call many people 'a friend', to me that's someone with whom I have a special connection. I suspect that others may be a bit more... accommodating in their definitions, and from their perspective I'd easily be 8-6-0-0, 7-5-0-0, etc...

That's how I look upon it.  I don't have many 'friends' - people with whom I would discuss any aspect of my life, turn to in times of need or be there if they needed someone.  I guess other people look at their Facebook account and see that they have hundreds.