Is it just me or.......

[mart3442]

Does it bug anyone else when messages are left unanswered? Or someone gets in touch about an item, you reply and then they don't respond, even though you can see they've read the message...... Seems to be happening more and more these days. Just a "no thanks", or "thanks, but that's not what I'm after" would do, a little bit of courtesy....
Guess I'm just a grumpy git today.

 

[SICbass]

I feel the same, but people won’t be forced into good manners.

[Newfoundfreedom]

Yeah it's one off the (many) things that boils my p!ss.

[White Cloud]

32 minutes ago, mart3442 said:

Does it bug anyone else when messages are left unanswered? Or someone gets in touch about an item, you reply and then they don't respond, even though you can see they've read the message...... Seems to be happening more and more these days. Just a "no thanks", or "thanks, but that's not what I'm after" would do, a little bit of courtesy....
Guess I'm just a grumpy git today.

 

It's actually got nothing to do with being grumpy, old, or a git

... its a microcosmic reflection upon the rapidly declining standards of acceptible behaviour so evident today in our society.

Bad manners, rudeness, selfishness and lack of courtesy are blatantly on show like never before (Trump / Westminster anyone?).

It might currently be 'on trend' to act in that way however, it remains appalling nonetheless.

[cetera]

Yep, had a few cases recently where people have emailed about an item I'm selling with a question, I've answered it and asked a question in return and no reply....

Just rude...

[Bassalarky]

Local guy called me last Wednesday, he says "was playing outside at the weekend, it started raining and now my amp won't work. I need it for Friday can you look at it please". As it sounded like an emergency, I said bring it round this evening and cancelled my night out playing darts. He never showed up. I texted him the next day and the response was " oh, something else came up" ? ! ? !

Thanks, rant over.

[Les]

Would seem the Internet has put paid to manners. 

[Hellzero]

Don't think it's the Internet, it has more to do with the parents not doing their job. I mean educating their kids and it's been lasting for decades now...

[Les]

25 minutes ago, Hellzero said:

Don't think it's the Internet, it has more to do with the parents not doing their job. I mean educating their kids and it's been lasting for decades now...

Not sure. Online gives you an opportunity to be blunt or even rude. You bang something on Facebook for 60 quid and some joker will message you with 

”£30 ?”

no “hi mate would you consider” etc etc. 
Never  happened to me  face to face or the phone. 

 

 

[SH73]

Yep , back and forth messages about item , how to pay, then stop. No response. Well 🦊

Edited October 17, 2019 by SH73
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[Skybone]

Even worse when you're answering a "bass player wanted" ad...

[steantval]

Non response to emails really gets my goat, just an acknowledgement they have received it.

They wouldn’t leave a letter delivered through their door unopened on the doormat for days.

😤

[Taylor Bitch-blues]

19 minutes ago, steantval said:

 

They wouldn’t leave a letter delivered through their door unopened on the doormat for days.

😤

  ....  ahem,  I do that,   ( wanders off whistling )

[DJpullchord]

I really don’t mind. People are busy. If someone needs to contact me, they will find a way.

Sometimes if I have too many emails or voicemails to deal with, I’ll delete the lot, on the premise that if any where important, someone will get back to me.

[fleabag]

On 16/10/2019 at 20:30, Les said:

Not sure. Online gives you an opportunity to be blunt or even rude.

Off Topic here is a testament to that

[Hellzero]

10 hours ago, DJpullchord said:

I really don’t mind. People are busy. If someone needs to contact me, they will find a way.

Sometimes if I have too many emails or voicemails to deal with, I’ll delete the lot, on the premise that if any where important, someone will get back to me.

Glad I'm not one of your relatives or friends. Do you also burn all your mail ? 

[Ed_S]

13 hours ago, DJpullchord said:

I really don’t mind. People are busy. If someone needs to contact me, they will find a way.

Sometimes if I have too many emails or voicemails to deal with, I’ll delete the lot, on the premise that if any where important, someone will get back to me.

An old line manager of mine did something similar - if email was Cc’d to him or he was one of multiple recipients in the To: field he’d got rules in place to just delete it. In his opinion, the only thing worth his time to read was a message you felt was important enough to send directly to him and only him. It certainly didn’t seem to hurt his career progression and he never seemed to disappear under a sea of email like the rest of us!

Personally I feel free to put in reasonable default clauses like ‘if you haven’t arrived by 8pm I’ll assume you’re not coming and I’ll go out’, or ‘if you haven’t replied by Tuesday I’ll assume you’re no longer interested in buying and I’ll offer the item to the next guy’ etc. I suppose some might say that I’m being rude or confrontational in doing that, and ok.. maybe I’ll ultimately lose out every now and then, but I’d argue that I'm just protecting my time and sanity. Plus, if you were struggling to think of a nice way of letting me down... no need!