cetera Posted Wednesday at 13:31 Share Posted Wednesday at 13:31 (edited) 6 hours ago, cetera said: SORRY! Accidentally posted my old post from previous page again. Ignore.... Edited Wednesday at 15:09 by cetera Duplicate post Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
casapete Posted Wednesday at 14:37 Share Posted Wednesday at 14:37 5 hours ago, cetera said: That happened with my theatre show a few years ago. I started the band with the drummer.... and we spent a year getting the right line-up in place. 2nd guitarist comes in, says he has lots of spare time so can book the gigs. Very kind.... and the 7 of us go out and play some amazing shows around the country with great reviews mentioning our authenticity, attention to detail, big bv's, multi-layered parts etc. Without our knowledge 2nd guitarist decides he wants ALL the money so starts a 2nd band doing the EXACT same set list but with just 4 people and a box of lies on click (containing keys, bv's, additional gtr etc). Tells all venues we have split up but he has a new band doing the same thing which can take over all dates without interruption We lose ALL our hard won shows to his new band and we have to try to start all over again.... then Covid hits. Post-Covid he takes over where he left off. Venues weren't interested in our side of the story, they just want a band playing those songs. Not many people I'd happily p*ss on if they were on fire, but he's one... I encountered something similar a number of years ago. New singer in our function band came onboard, promising all sorts of things he could do to increase our presence and reputation, which to be fair was already quite strong. All good to begin with, but after the band didn’t see eye to eye with some of his ideas ( including ‘cheap’ gigs for agents and some of his acquaintances) we discovered he was giving out his personal business cards on our gigs when we thought he was distributing ours. Soon after we gave him the boot, but the damage was already done - he started a new band doing similar stuff to our band and boosting his reputation by quoting his time with us as a reference. Soon many of the gigs we had always done regularly dried up, as he quoted less than our usual fees and was very good with crawling around people, gift of the gab etc. We carried on doing what we could, and managed to keep things going with a new frontman for a few years. However, as money got tight and people started cutting budgets on weddings and corporate events, inevitably there were only so many gigs to go round and we struggled. I had to leave eventually, which turned out okay for me but the band never fully recovered from things and eventually folded. Whilst this may have been the case anyway, I’ve always thought that this guy was largely to blame. ( He now goes out as a solo vocalist with backing tracks….) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan Dare Posted Wednesday at 14:45 Share Posted Wednesday at 14:45 I wonder what the guitar player's take on this is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrDaveTheBass Posted Wednesday at 21:49 Share Posted Wednesday at 21:49 On 22/10/2024 at 19:07, Dad3353 said: On the other hand, Life is too short for any pettiness. Let it go, you're bigger than that, and no kittens have been harmed. Unless of course the OP decides to start hurling trained attack kittens at the band mid set. Buah huh ha! 🤪 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dad3353 Posted Wednesday at 21:50 Share Posted Wednesday at 21:50 Just now, MrDaveTheBass said: Unless of course the OP decides to start hurling trained attack kittens at the band mid set. Buah huh ha! 🤪 Darn it..! I hadn't thought of that..! Hmm... Where's the nearest telephone..? Quickly, now..! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MacDaddy Posted Thursday at 09:45 Share Posted Thursday at 09:45 On 22/10/2024 at 19:07, Dad3353 said: On the other hand, Life is too short Too short? What do you do that is longer? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dad3353 Posted Thursday at 09:47 Share Posted Thursday at 09:47 1 minute ago, MacDaddy said: Too short? What do you do that is longer? Err... Not exist..? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ARGH Posted Thursday at 10:34 Share Posted Thursday at 10:34 Experience has taught me to not waste effort with anger, but always remember the result of the actions of others. Secondly, if a band has a long list of ex members, find the consistent one, and there you will find the problem. In time, you may be lucky and get an apology. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spongebob Posted Thursday at 17:02 Share Posted Thursday at 17:02 6 hours ago, ARGH said: Experience has taught me to not waste effort with anger, but always remember the result of the actions of others. Secondly, if a band has a long list of ex members, find the consistent one, and there you will find the problem. In time, you may be lucky and get an apology. I agree. I was drumming for band I helped form, some years back, and I was dumped by email. It was a trio…..I immediately tried to ring them both, neither would even answer their phones. Dusted myself down, and within days, I met and got involved in another project. 👍 That’s the good bit…..the bad was it was the thing that ultimately made me never want to drum again, and I haven’t. Anyway, it’s always best to maintain dignity, move on, and put it behind you. I’d like to say they’ll get their Karma, but TBH, I’ve seen enough people in life carry on without a care to make me doubt that exists! 🫣 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boodang Posted yesterday at 04:41 Author Share Posted yesterday at 04:41 (edited) On 23/10/2024 at 19:45, Dan Dare said: I wonder what the guitar player's take on this is. The guitarist, quite frankly lame, excuse was 'your strengths really are in playing the acoustic numbers'. I pointed out that even if that is the case I hadn't excused myself from the non acoustic side of the band and certainly not anything that was discussed. And I certainly didn't feel that he as the guitarist held executive powers in the band (of which I am a co founder) to decide which numbers I play on and which I don't. I did get an apology, of sorts, from the drummer who said sorry they didn't think it thru. The guitarist.... nothing. Still, in the meantime I have a blues band that's doing really well with musicians who do think about each other, so at least I have more time to concentrate on that. I suspect the blues band might have something to do with their behaviour but I've always been upfront about other projects and I've never let them get in the way in terms of commitment. Still, as has been said, move on and don't let anger be the main emotion, after all we did have some great gigs, so have to be grateful for that. Edited yesterday at 04:46 by Boodang 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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