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16 minutes ago, Kevsy71 said:

Done! Amazing story, amazing family, amazing community ♥️


The basschat response to this has been an absolute highlight of my entire life:

 

I’ve never really known anything like it in response to something to do with me.

 

I never ask for help nor expect it - never had much as a kid and worked bloody hard to get to where I am.

 

So to receive such unanimous support, and so many people having so many wonderful words of support and kindness (some whom I’ve never met, some I know very well and some I’ve sent a spare grub screw to) is absolutely mind blowing.

 

You’re all absolutely fantastic.

 

So…

 

Slight update on the work…

 

Wetroom is “easy” according to Ryan our Plumber (Family member)

 

Our boiler is “near the end of its life” - so that’s a joyous revelation…
 

The other work to facilitate a shared living room is more complicated and requires more investigation…to swap a kitchen and small living room (currently a bedroom for Ella) requires the water mains to be at the opposite end of the house.

 

So, back to the drawing board there…the costs involved might kill that idea.

 

We’ll figure it out, but I feel like that conversation has left me looking at a jigsaw without the helpful illustration on the box.

 

More news next week when the prices start rolling in.

 

@bassinthefacei have mentioned your message to my guy, so again - thank you so much for that x

 

 

 

 

 

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I’m sort of sat deflated by the conversation with the plumber tonight.

 

And I messaged some of my beautiful mates @bassfan @walshy @lee650 @LukeFRCand @hiram.k.hackenbacker

 

I thought about this statement they wanted us to write… and I just typed.

 

Jen is looking at it and adjusting it.

 

Not to achieve anything other than making them think of the shitshow they’ve made…of the entire thing.

 

“Iris has absolutely made our family.

 

Every single day living in fear of losing my kid because her brain is a ticking time bomb has given me a resilience and resolve I didn’t know was possible.

 

The fact we were told that in more than 50% of cases, parents choose to terminate (up to 28 weeks).

That we could legally abort at basically full term…

 

That she would have “no quality of life” and would basically “live in a vegetative state” - based upon her scans…

 

I look at a 6 year old who loves to dance, I look at a little girl who can swim, climb and crawl - who can stand with support; who would love nothing more than to walk and run with her friends - but has the emotional maturity to understand that it’s a “work in progress” at just 6 years old.

 

Has a reading age of 10 (one year off being able to access GCSE papers).
A mathematical age of 7.5 years.

 

Who struggles to control a pen, so has slightly scruffy (but legible) handwriting…

She’s missing 20% of her spine, and her nervous system is a basket of broken wires…

 

She makes fart jokes. Constantly.

 

Her laugh makes people laugh, she’s cheeky, she’s naughty at times.

 

She’s mine.
She’s ours.

 

She has more life in her than a lot of people without diagnosis/disability.

 

She’s Iris. Come and meet her, realise why she needs a bit of a hand sometimes…but doesn’t need a pity statement.”

 

Jenny will sort the other bits about the shifting goalposts and hoop jumping.

 

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Most parents couldn't write what you just wrote Andy.  I know you will keep all of this exchange for your Iris (there are about 200 of us who will have it in case you lose it).  You (and your partner) are doing what every parent who loves their child would do.  Plumber s....t happens to us all.  You have the miracle of Iris and a pile of grumpy old bass players behind you (you are unique in that!).  Iris and your whole family will make sure you get through this and we will all watch and be rooting for you all.  That was a fantastic vid by the way...both Iris and your playing....possibly with the emphasis on Iris.

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50 minutes ago, AndyTravis said:

I’m sort of sat deflated by the conversation with the plumber tonight.

 

And I messaged some of my beautiful mates @bassfan @walshy @lee650 @LukeFRCand @hiram.k.hackenbacker

 

I thought about this statement they wanted us to write… and I just typed.

 

Jen is looking at it and adjusting it.

 

Not to achieve anything other than making them think of the shitshow they’ve made…of the entire thing.

 

“Iris has absolutely made our family.

 

Every single day living in fear of losing my kid because her brain is a ticking time bomb has given me a resilience and resolve I didn’t know was possible.

 

The fact we were told that in more than 50% of cases, parents choose to terminate (up to 28 weeks).

That we could legally abort at basically full term…

 

That she would have “no quality of life” and would basically “live in a vegetative state” - based upon her scans…

 

I look at a 6 year old who loves to dance, I look at a little girl who can swim, climb and crawl - who can stand with support; who would love nothing more than to walk and run with her friends - but has the emotional maturity to understand that it’s a “work in progress” at just 6 years old.

 

Has a reading age of 10 (one year off being able to access GCSE papers).
A mathematical age of 7.5 years.

 

Who struggles to control a pen, so has slightly scruffy (but legible) handwriting…

She’s missing 20% of her spine, and her nervous system is a basket of broken wires…

 

She makes fart jokes. Constantly.

 

Her laugh makes people laugh, she’s cheeky, she’s naughty at times.

 

She’s mine.
She’s ours.

 

She has more life in her than a lot of people without diagnosis/disability.

 

She’s Iris. Come and meet her, realise why she needs a bit of a hand sometimes…but doesn’t need a pity statement.”

 

Jenny will sort the other bits about the shifting goalposts and hoop jumping.

 

That's beautiful. Heartfelt but not treacly and really drives home the point that Iris, and your family, are people and not statistics. As you say, sometimes all you can do is make people confront their choices and be aware of how sh*tty they are being if they go with the self-interested option. 

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17 hours ago, AndyTravis said:


The basschat response to this has been an absolute highlight of my entire life:

 

I’ve never really known anything like it in response to something to do with me.

 

I never ask for help nor expect it - never had much as a kid and worked bloody hard to get to where I am.

 

So to receive such unanimous support, and so many people having so many wonderful words of support and kindness (some whom I’ve never met, some I know very well and some I’ve sent a spare grub screw to) is absolutely mind blowing.

 

You’re all absolutely fantastic.

 

So…

 

Slight update on the work…

 

Wetroom is “easy” according to Ryan our Plumber (Family member)

 

Our boiler is “near the end of its life” - so that’s a joyous revelation…
 

The other work to facilitate a shared living room is more complicated and requires more investigation…to swap a kitchen and small living room (currently a bedroom for Ella) requires the water mains to be at the opposite end of the house.

 

So, back to the drawing board there…the costs involved might kill that idea.

 

We’ll figure it out, but I feel like that conversation has left me looking at a jigsaw without the helpful illustration on the box.

 

More news next week when the prices start rolling in.

 

@bassinthefacei have mentioned your message to my guy, so again - thank you so much for that x

 

 

 

 

 

You’re welcome mate.

 

 

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17 hours ago, AndyTravis said:

I’m sort of sat deflated by the conversation with the plumber tonight


I’m sure you are, Andy. It’s depressing when you think you have a plan and then discover that it’s not as easy as you thought. But, often, you then discover that there’s actually a better alternative. Or that you can still achieve the result you want but  it’s just going to take a little longer, cost a little more. Whatever this is, there is always an answer. You will find it. 
 

And, more to the point, you have a few thousand more now than you had a week ago and access to the collective experience, knowledge and support of the BC community. If you need to organise a work party, you will not be short of volunteers. If you need technical support, someone here will know someone who can help.

 

You’ll find a way to do this

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1 hour ago, Skinnyman said:


I’m sure you are, Andy. It’s depressing when you think you have a plan and then discover that it’s not as easy as you thought. But, often, you then discover that there’s actually a better alternative. Or that you can still achieve the result you want but  it’s just going to take a little longer, cost a little more. Whatever this is, there is always an answer. You will find it. 
 

And, more to the point, you have a few thousand more now than you had a week ago and access to the collective experience, knowledge and support of the BC community. If you need to organise a work party, you will not be short of volunteers. If you need technical support, someone here will know someone who can help.

 

You’ll find a way to do this


Yeah, woke up in a more positive mood x

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