bremen Posted Thursday at 11:45 Share Posted Thursday at 11:45 Might be a good name for my new band, but that only occurred to me once I'd typed it. I'm playing in a new band, looking for a singer. I know someone I'd like to introduce to the drummer and guitarist; I've worked with him before and really enjoyed his performances and his company. However, both he and the drummer are very...wilful might be the word. As in horses that resist being "broken" or toddlers that throw their toys at their siblings. They are almost certain to fight. Possibly to the death. My question for you, dear agony aunts is: should I risk it? Apart from the risk of bloodshed and involvement of law enforcement agencies, what's the worst that could happen? I've been in bands where the female singer is in a relationship with other band member(s). Surely if I can deal with that I can deal with the occasional trip to A&E? I wonder what Roger Daltrey or Steve Hanley would advise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neepheid Posted Thursday at 11:47 Share Posted Thursday at 11:47 Have an audition/jam, see what happens? They might be wilful in complementary ways? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterMute Posted Thursday at 11:52 Share Posted Thursday at 11:52 Many of the greatest bands had an intrinsic tension if not outright hostility at their core, any group of creative and intelligent people will inevitably clash, the trick is in managing and to some extent, coping with the fallout of the inevitable blow-ups. It's partly what makes those bands great. Bit like a marriage I guess. We can't all be Rush, besties for 50 years... 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lozz196 Posted Thursday at 12:04 Share Posted Thursday at 12:04 I`ve always figured that as long as the conflict doesn`t actively involve me then let others get on with it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bremen Posted Thursday at 12:37 Author Share Posted Thursday at 12:37 My thoughts exactly, all of you,thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean-Luc Pickguard Posted Thursday at 12:47 Share Posted Thursday at 12:47 As I get older my ability to tolerate people behaving like tw@ts diminishes exponentially. I wouldn't want to be in a band with drama queens. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bremen Posted Thursday at 12:56 Author Share Posted Thursday at 12:56 8 minutes ago, Jean-Luc Pickguard said: As I get older my ability to tolerate people behaving like tw@ts diminishes exponentially. I wouldn't want to be in a band with drama queens. I'm the opposite. Used to bother me but I'm getting a lot better at shrugging. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaulThePlug Posted Thursday at 12:58 Share Posted Thursday at 12:58 Start a band with the singer, and look for a drummer and guitarist?.. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boodang Posted Friday at 05:08 Share Posted Friday at 05:08 (edited) Do it! Use the whole thing as an excuse to vlog said 'dramas' on youtube. That could prove more profitable than the gigs. Edited Friday at 05:09 by Boodang 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gjones Posted Friday at 05:40 Share Posted Friday at 05:40 17 hours ago, bremen said: Might be a good name for my new band, but that only occurred to me once I'd typed it. I'm playing in a new band, looking for a singer. I know someone I'd like to introduce to the drummer and guitarist; I've worked with him before and really enjoyed his performances and his company. However, both he and the drummer are very...wilful might be the word. As in horses that resist being "broken" or toddlers that throw their toys at their siblings. They are almost certain to fight. Possibly to the death. My question for you, dear agony aunts is: should I risk it? Apart from the risk of bloodshed and involvement of law enforcement agencies, what's the worst that could happen? I've been in bands where the female singer is in a relationship with other band member(s). Surely if I can deal with that I can deal with the occasional trip to A&E? I wonder what Roger Daltrey or Steve Hanley would advise. Drummers don't have the right to be opinionated, they're just drummers after all. Stewart Copeland never figured that out. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beedster Posted Friday at 09:07 Share Posted Friday at 09:07 21 hours ago, WinterMute said: Many of the greatest bands had an intrinsic tension if not outright hostility at their core, any group of creative and intelligent people will inevitably clash, the trick is in managing and to some extent, coping with the fallout of the inevitable blow-ups. It's partly what makes those bands great. Bit like a marriage I guess. We can't all be Rush, besties for 50 years... This ^ Life's too short not to give it a go. At least you're eyes wide open 👍 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bremen Posted Friday at 09:32 Author Share Posted Friday at 09:32 "Life's for living!" "Well it's hard to know what else to do with it" -Noel Coward 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
casapete Posted Friday at 16:55 Share Posted Friday at 16:55 On 19/12/2024 at 12:47, Jean-Luc Pickguard said: As I get older my ability to tolerate people behaving like tw@ts diminishes exponentially. I wouldn't want to be in a band with drama queens. Same with me. 50 years of being in bands, some 15 of which were spent putting up with tw@ts because it was my living and I needed to play. Fortunately the last 15 years has been completely the opposite, and I was lucky to be in a great band earning money with great like minded people. Since semi retiring I now play with my best mate in a duo, and an old mate in a blues trio so it’s just a pleasure going to play local gigs for me. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bremen Posted Friday at 17:18 Author Share Posted Friday at 17:18 (edited) Well, I've let the drummer hear the singer's material and he likes it. So...onward! To be clear, neither drummer nor singer is a twât - both are strong personalities. One's fire, one's ice; it's the bass player's job to be luke warm water. Edited Friday at 17:18 by bremen 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mickeyboro Posted Friday at 17:21 Share Posted Friday at 17:21 I have another thread going about frontmen. If playing music was my living, I could probably put up with a lot more than I am currently prepared to. Mind you, in that case I’d hope there was a manager character slightly removed from the action to bang heads together/administer cups of tea etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean-Luc Pickguard Posted Friday at 21:51 Share Posted Friday at 21:51 4 hours ago, bremen said: To be clear, neither drummer nor singer is a twât You don't neccesarily need to be one to sometimes behave like one. On 19/12/2024 at 11:45, bremen said: However, both he and the drummer are very...wilful might be the word. As in horses that resist being "broken" or toddlers that throw their toys at their siblings. They are almost certain to fight. Possibly to the death. If that isn't tw@ttish behaviour, I don't know what is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bremen Posted Friday at 22:00 Author Share Posted Friday at 22:00 Sometimes my exaggeration for comic effect misses the mark. Happens a million times every day. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LowB_FTW Posted Friday at 22:30 Share Posted Friday at 22:30 On 19/12/2024 at 11:47, neepheid said: Have an audition/jam, see what happens? They might be wilful in complementary ways? And don't forget to record it. On Video. 😅 Mark 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bremen Posted yesterday at 09:43 Author Share Posted yesterday at 09:43 A list of non-twâts, notoriously prone to twâttish behavior, with whom I'd gladly have shared a stage/studio: Ian Dury Mark E Smith Miles Davis Keith Moon Morrissey...oh hang on, I said non-twâts... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SICbass Posted 21 hours ago Share Posted 21 hours ago Set up the meet. Livestream it. Sell tickets. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bremen Posted 19 hours ago Author Share Posted 19 hours ago It'll be the best thing since the NME got Mark E Smith, Nick Cave and Shane McGowan together in a bar with a bottomless tab Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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