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Hi all, I really need to share this (have a whinge!) as it has cut me up big time.
I joined this band about 3 months ago, after not having played bass for quite a number of years, i have been loving it. They are (were?) a working band regularly gigging, but had lost a male vocalist and bass player. Since I joined we had rehearsed regularly (once/twice a week) and had 3 gigs lined up, the first in 4 weeks time. We had just booked a day in the studio and done a band photo shoot last Sunday.
About 4 weeks ago, we auditioned a male vocalist (the band had always had a male and female vocalist), he was very very good, but our female vocalist clearly wasn't amused as he kinda blew her away/ put her in the shade. We had a band meeting to decide on him, the verdict being if we brought him in, she would leave the band, as would our lead guitar player (as they are joined at the hip, playing acoustically together outside of the band). So everyone in the band gave her our full backing, we decided to continue with just her doing lead vocals.
So, we do this photoshoot on Sunday, practice on Monday night (not great, she tells us we have to keep turning down as her voice can't cope! We, by the way are a rock band!) During the practice the lead guitar player throws a wobbler directed at me, as a song we were playing broke down after his solo, (this has been happening for a few weeks now, sometimes because he can't remember what to play!, worrying with a gig 4 weeks away!) So it's not a good night, leaving a rather poor atmosphere at the end. Our rythym guitar player then asked if we are back in on Wednesday night, as we usually are, they then snap no. no. we have 2 acoustic gigs at the weekend and we need to practice for them. Ok, we all say, though we clearly aren't happy.
Next morning we get a text message!! from the female singer saying she is leaving the band, as her voice isn't capable! By the afternoon the lead guitar player now decides he is leaving too! (we knew that would be the case).
Leaving us high and dry after booking 3 gigs, a day in the studio, doing a photoshoot and rejecting a really good singer in order to back her!
Im am seriously peeved! The rest of us have vowed to carry on / start again, but it will be a different band (maybe a good thing?). I personally have spent the last 3 months putting an awful lot of time, money and effort into this just for people to waste my time! Grrrrrrrr.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. cheers all. :)

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Why will it be a different band? OK so the vocalist has flounced off taking her widdling poodle with her, but you still have the entire rhythm section. And that, as any fule no, is the backbone of every good band. You're in a good position. I agree with SP, see if you can get that male vocalist back. Beg if you have to. :)

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Yeah man, get the singer back. Tell him that the only reason we said no in the first place was because of the female singer and lead guitarist didnt want him, which isn't far from the truth. Then honour the gigs and find a new lead. Can the rythym player not 'blag' the solos for a couple of gigs?

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[quote name='Rich' post='792189' date='Mar 31 2010, 05:26 PM']Why will it be a different band? OK so the vocalist has flounced off taking her widdling poodle with her, but you still have the entire rhythm section. And that, as any fule no, is the backbone of every good band. You're in a good position. I agree with SP, see if you can get that male vocalist back. Beg if you have to. :)[/quote]
And I agree with you.

I hear a lot of stories on here about band members being complete faffarses and leaving, cliques often being a major reason. I think it's down to lack of confidence undermining professionalism. There are some serious shrinking violets out there too, who dare not speak their minds at the appropriate time.

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[quote name='Rich' post='792189' date='Mar 31 2010, 05:26 PM']Why will it be a different band? OK so the vocalist has flounced off taking her widdling poodle with her, but you still have the entire rhythm section. And that, as any fule no, is the backbone of every good band. You're in a good position. I agree with SP, see if you can get that male vocalist back.[b] Beg if you have to[/b]. :)[/quote]


Oh steady on ol' chap. Only beg if you really have to.
Singers have big enough egos already...
You don't to start out with him thinking it's[b] his[/b] band now, Dave

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Thanks everyone for all your advice! Made me feel a bit better. We are going to try and get the guy who auditioned to sing for us. It's a strange one because when I joined the band I immediately felt a bond with the lead guitar player (he was the one who contacted me), but this bond soon dwindled away. By this month I knew there was a definite "them and us" with the band kinda split into 2 camps. Think this is why I feel so angry, kind of betrayed if you know what I mean?
Anyway, onwards and upwards! :)

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[quote name='Stylon Pilson' post='792177' date='Mar 31 2010, 05:18 PM']Get that male vocalist back, if you can. Do the gigs without a lead guitarist.

S.P.[/quote]

+1 to getting the singer back. Is your rhythm player capable of any lead? If so get him to double up. If not, try and get a new lead guitarist!

Good luck mate

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